New Year, New Beginnings!


2016 is here! I cannot use the word “FINALLY” as 2015 flew by so fast that, like a gush of a wind which blew you down to 2016! A very late post, with January already ended and February mid way through, here I am finding that time to blog something 🙂 Oh yes, Happy New Year folks 🙂

Well, I won’t be talking about all of the 2015 beautiful memories but for one amazing thing which started in May,2015!

2015 had quite a busy schedule with one of our main products going through a major revamp and with side by side projects in fray, 24 hours in the day seemed less. As I was busy in my own world trying to learn things as well as fix the issues that I had added in the process of learning, my parents were planning on setting me up and getting me on the next level in life 🙂

Age is a just a number in ones life but for parents there are certain responsibilities they need to fulfil at the right number and they feel some things needs to be done at the right age to have the right effect 🙂 Yes, you read my mind here, marriage it was in question and almost since 2014 October they were quite willing to start off the Mega Hunt! May 2015, it was my cousins wedding and I was pretty sure for all the running around the bush that I did regarding marriage prior to this, I didn’t have another bush to run around and was supposed to answer when I go back home. It turned out as expected and I had to wave a green flag for the search.
Let me brief you how the Bride search happens in our Gowda Saraswat Brahmin community the traditional way!
  1. It is mainly by word of mouth that the news spreads that such and such a guy is eligible and is ready for marriage amongst the community folks. But with Internet and social media these days, there are few community websites where you can upload the details for the rest to see or rather portray about the girl or the boys current status. Mine wasn’t uploaded anywhere and we chose the traditional ‘word of mouth’ strategy – slow but always effective 😉
  2. Girls parents usually contacts the boys side for the horoscope and exchange of the horoscope along with probably the pictures takes place. Usually, these are shared via mails these days but if we go back not more than 10 years back, the girls parents used to visit the boys side in person and hand over the horoscope in person.
  3. Post the horoscope exchange, the astrologer from each side matches the horoscope and based on his Green flag talks proceed.
  4. Once horoscope matches, parents from both sides decide upon the family and the respective girl/boy having a good character, job etc etc in other words, whether he/she is capable or not of entering the wedlock.
  5. Post which, the ball is in the boys/girls court with a meet being set up and then confirmation/rejection happens.

Mega Hunt:
I was in India during November for Dasara for a good 3 weeks but everything was silent. As my leaves was the primary concern for me, I wanted to settle something before I head back but not everything happens as you want it to be right. 🙂

During my final week of stay or rather I can say it was 3 days until my flight back to Singapore when one of my mothers cousin called up stating her brothers daughter is working for TCS, Bangalore and they are willing to give the horoscope. The horoscope exchange happened with my photograph being mailed across and they sending her one. These days, astrologers are quite busy and with their schedule running very tight, it is very difficult to get their time. When all this was unfolding, I headed back and my normal life began here at SG.

No sooner did I come back, things kicked off in quite a good pace with developments happening day by day. I had a major project cut over during the month of November and I wanted to somehow push proceedings post the implementation and the warranty support so that I could think in peace 🙂 but, things happened the other way. As I wanted to buy time, I asked for few more photographs which also came across within a couple of days leaving me with no choice but to continue with the flow. First look at the photograph and I messaged in our family group – “She is Pretty” 🙂 and with my parents already having liked her and her family, the ball was in my court. I asked for her number and I spoke to her to set up a ‘Skype Call Date’ the following day. Was I excited? Yes, I was! I was in middle of an production implementation and hence the excitement died down quick.

November 28th, 12pm IST, I had set up a call with her and due to my over night implementation back at work, I woke up close to 11:55am IST 🙂 after suddenly realizing that there was a call I managed to get some 15mins buffer after texting her. She obliged with a smile 🙂 The call eventually started at around 12:20pm approx which lasted for around an hour and 10 minutes. I did not meet her face-to-face but that skype call was enough for me to agree and wave the flag back. 🙂 What we spoke for an hour plus ten minutes is something that I would not like to disclose but it definitely was something that struck a chord and I was happy and smiling post the same. 🙂 I guess she too was 🙂 Post that, I spoke to my mom and I did not have to say anything to her, she herself knew my answer 🙂

I had an team outing that evening so I came back quite late that day. There was a logic that her and her sister had – If I messaged her that very day, it would mean I was interested and have agreed and yes I did send her a picture of my team post the outing 🙂 So, the logic was proved right 🙂

Arranged marriage was something I always wondered as to how it would even happen and go through during the initial stages of getting to know someone unknown and here I was experiencing the same. I used to ask my parents, specially mom about the experience she had when she initially met dad as during those days there were no mobiles, no messages and even calls were very less and expensive. We are lucky to be in the century where communication between any corner of the world is possible with even very less amount to pay for.

Thus began our initial round of whatsapp and calls with texts being thoughtfully sent, calls made but words being carefully used but the bridge was built quite fast with frequent calls and messages. It did not take long to know her, at least some of her likes,dislikes etc if not in-depth. With the time difference of 2.5 hours, I had to quit a little bit of sleep time in order to get adjusted to the call timings but overall, it was quite a wonderful initial start. 🙂

The Meet:

The first meet was something I was working on with December being a month of block leaves for most of the employees and me having taken my share early in November there was a bit of cover up to be done back at work and hence until January 8th, I had to postpone my first meet with her. December month went across in a jiffy with my parents meeting her and her parents and from the pictures I could say that parents were very happy after the meet. 🙂 Sometimes, when you see your parents happy, the feelings says a lot and we don’t need to think twice about the rest.

January 8th did finally arrive with 4 days of Bengaluru trip planned and this trip was special! The First ever meet 🙂 Quite a number of questions were being asked internally, how do I react, what should I talk, how should I behave etc etc. and somehow I remember telling myself enroute to Bengaluru to remain calm and go by the flow. My flight landed at approx 12:45am at BIAL, post which I called up my parents informing about the safe arrival and also texted her about the same. I was supposed to meet her and her family next noon but somehow there was a gut feeling that she had come down to pick me up from the airport! I refrained from asking her the same, but I was constantly  bombarded with questions about my immigration, luggage formalities being completed or not which kind of added on to my gut feeling 🙂

When I did manage to come out, my gut feeling was true and there she was 🙂 along with her father, sister and brother in law! A “HI” was all that I muttered to say(too too cold in bangalore 😉 ) as somehow it was a totally different feeling of meeting face to face for the first time even though we had conversations for hours together daily until then 🙂 I was happy, very happy seeing her 🙂

Warm Welcome to Bengaluru in that Chilly Weather :)
Warm Welcome to Bengaluru in that Chilly Weather 🙂
They dropped me to my brothers place at Vijayanagar. Casual talks all through with legs being pulled by her sister and brother in law was the highlight of the travel. I managed to speak only a few things directed just to her and the rest of conversation was on general topics. It was a totally unexpected first meet and the spontaneous reaction from me was “EXCITED AND NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO” 🙂 It indeed was a wonderful first meet which will always remain special to me! Thanks to Akka and Bavaji for arranging the same 🙂

Saturday was a formal meet with her family along with mine followed by lunch which was sumptuous. So many items that, a little of everything would fill up your tummy. Me and my bro being very less eaters, we managed only little of everything 😉

Along with my dad and brother :)
Along with my dad and brother 🙂
Her Parents, Sister and Brother In Law :)
Her Parents, Sister and Brother In Law 🙂
Then came the first ever bike ride to Majestic as my dad had some shopping to do and finally I had some time to spend with her alone 🙂 🙂 With the lovely Bengaluru traffic, moving at snails pace, it was definitely worth all the time! A dinner at ‘Little Italy’ that night winded up Saturday with the long ride ‘alone’ back home that was a bit chilly. No, I mean it. Very chilly 🙂
Cousins :)
Cousins 🙂
Sunday was an all cousins outing, with Omkar Hills and Dodda Alada Mara being the 2 preferred destinations! Omkar hills situated approximately 14kms on Mysore road. Thanks to Hemanth for picking up this place for a short but sweet outing. More than the place of outing, the travel up and down alongside her was very special 🙂 I was meeting her for the very first time and getting to spend some time together was indeed very much helpful to gel up more. May be due to the constant messages and calls over the past month made the bonding quite good and I did not feel that I am meeting her for the very first time nor did I search for words or topics all through the travel. Thanks to Mannu who sacrificed his bike ride and let me ride all through 🙂
At Omkar Hills
At Omkar Hills
Monday and Tuesday was specifically dedicated to her! 🙂 Lunch at Rajadhani followed by long long talks sitting alongside the man-made lake at Orion Mall was really pleasant. Isckon temple visit also was peaceful where I could see some good helpful nature in her. We were returning down post darshan, where we could see a small girl approximately 5 to 6 year old lost and crying badly. She immediately went to the kid, tried to console her and then took her to the security for further announcement to be made. The security official there assured us that the girl is safe and we may proceed but SHE was not so happy to do so. After approximately 10 minutes with a heavy head we went across and during all this while there was this worried look on her face as to what happened to the girl and no matter how much I tried to console her saying the girl would be fine, she just could not get it out of her mind. Just before we left Isckon we managed to meet the same security official who informed us about the girl being reunited with her parents 🙂 There was huge relief seen on HER face hearing this news. The willingness to help someone in need is what that moved me 🙂

Orion Mall and then the next day Mantri mall was quite wonderful. Tuesday flew off very very soon with the thought of departure that night looming around 😦 Akka and Bavaji did come to drop me back again to the airport as I could spend those extra couple of hours again with her 🙂

All along, the only thought that went through me was that, how quickly life had changed and there was someone beside me who cares for me now a lot who before a month was someone unknown. I am grateful to malshi to have given me such lovely parents and brother who care for me and love me by supporting me in all ways possible and now one more family added to that with her parents and sister and bavaji, caring equally for me. 🙂

Those 4 days were one of the most wonderful moments of my life that I would cherish throughout and with marriage being 7 months down the line, this definitely was a meet that was very much needed 🙂 Yes, I always mentioned as “HER” & “SHE” – but here I can happily introduce “Vidya Pai” to you all 🙂

Malshi and parents blessings have made it possible to find someone who I felt is ideal for me with respect to her nature, behaviour and also care,concern and respect she has towards elders. Mingling with my family and treating them as theirs is one of the most important and noteworthy thing that I admired a lot in her and I am sure there are many more things I am willing to know as and when time progresses 🙂

:)
🙂

To this beautiful start – Thank you Vidya for accepting me the way I am and I hope the first meet was equally amazing for you as well! 🙂

Cheers,
Muki
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6 thoughts on “New Year, New Beginnings!

  1. Feeling is mutual deva.. 🙂 no matter how much we msg how much we talk but having you beside me was wonderful feeling. .. eagerly waiting for ur next visit and next blog 😉

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